Evolution

Shoulders back. Chin up.

This is the pose of confidence that my grandmother taught me. However, when your shoulders have slumped and your neck is used to nodding and leaning from listening to the endless stream of what others have to say, executing this pose can feel unnatural, like someone is trying to pull you up by your hair.

Respect your elders, because they have the experience. This pose not only opens you up and makes you appear confident, but since you appear confident it makes you feel more confident. Just like I learned that doing my hair makes me feel prettier, smiling at myself in the mirror will usually make me laugh, and taking on an upbeat voice on the phone at work makes even the most disgruntled tenants chill out a little bit.

Is this fake? What is the most natural human state? My answer to this question is ever evolving. I don't think that you can call changing fake, or positivity deceptive. Ever seeking truth, knowledge and happiness. Sharing the experience. Peeling back the layers.

OK, back to my potato chips and ice tea, all smiles for me!